Guidelines for Helping with Homework
(so you don't work harder than your child)
From Love and Logic Solution (www.loveandlogic.com):
1. Set aside a time each day for family learning.
-Set aside at least 30 minutes, devoted to "family brain cell development." During this time, there should be no TV, video games, computer games, etc.
- Model your own excitement for learning by reading a book, writing letters, etc.
- Your child may learn by doing their homework, reading about something they love, writing stories, etc.
2. Help only when your child truly wants it.
- Some parents make the mistake of forcing help upon their kids. This only creates frustration, anger, and kids who believe they can't learn without their parents' help.
3. Help only when there's an absence of anger or frustration.
- When either you or your child gets frustrated or angry, learning becomes associated with frustration and anger.
4. Help only when your child can describe what the teacher said.
- This ensures that your child continues to believe that it's important to pay attention to teachers.
- Unfortunately, some kids learn that it's best to "tune-out" at school and let their parents do all the teaching at home.
5. Move away from your child before he/she "gets it."
- Some children believe they can only learn something, or "get it," when an adult is in the same room... or is guiding them every inch of the way.
- To prevent this dependency, avoid falling into the habit of sitting at the table as your child does homework, especially when they are on the brink of learning something new.
1. Set aside a time each day for family learning.
-Set aside at least 30 minutes, devoted to "family brain cell development." During this time, there should be no TV, video games, computer games, etc.
- Model your own excitement for learning by reading a book, writing letters, etc.
- Your child may learn by doing their homework, reading about something they love, writing stories, etc.
2. Help only when your child truly wants it.
- Some parents make the mistake of forcing help upon their kids. This only creates frustration, anger, and kids who believe they can't learn without their parents' help.
3. Help only when there's an absence of anger or frustration.
- When either you or your child gets frustrated or angry, learning becomes associated with frustration and anger.
4. Help only when your child can describe what the teacher said.
- This ensures that your child continues to believe that it's important to pay attention to teachers.
- Unfortunately, some kids learn that it's best to "tune-out" at school and let their parents do all the teaching at home.
5. Move away from your child before he/she "gets it."
- Some children believe they can only learn something, or "get it," when an adult is in the same room... or is guiding them every inch of the way.
- To prevent this dependency, avoid falling into the habit of sitting at the table as your child does homework, especially when they are on the brink of learning something new.
The cardinal rule of helping:
Never work harder than your child.
Helpful Information and Links
The Tennessee Department of Education has everything you need to know about SPED services in our school. You can find your legal rights as a guardian or student, forms you may need, and all of the laws regarding special education services in Tennessee. Check out this important information by clicking on any of the buttons below.
The STEP (Support and Training for Exceptional Parents) manual is an excellent resource that contains all the important laws, names/addresses, and forms you might need. It is over 300 pages long, but well worth checking out. The STEP manual outlines laws, procedures, complaints, questions to ask during IEP meetings, and how to organize your paperwork to make IEP meetings go smoother for you.
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